Healing Mother Wounds: Christian Counseling Tips for Mother’s Day

Let’s be real: Mother’s Day can stir up a lot of feelings.

For some women, it’s flowers, brunch, and joyful memories.
For others, it’s silent prayers, deep sighs, and complicated emotions wrapped up in a
cute card you didn’t even want to buy.

If you grew up with a mother who was emotionally distant, critical, absent, or just made
you feel like you were never quite “enough”—whew, sis, you’re not crazy. You’re
carrying wounds that deserve healing.

You’re in good company.

In Genesis 16, Hagar ran away into the wilderness after being mistreated by people
who should have protected her. And right there, in her place of pain, God found her,
called her seen, and spoke life over her future.

Reflection:
Have you ever felt unseen, dismissed, or mishandled by someone you deeply loved?
What would it mean to believe that even if they missed you—God never has?

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What are Mother Wounds?

A mother wound is the emotional pain from unmet needs—needs for love, acceptance,
nurture, and protection.
And hear me clearly: you can love your mom and still acknowledge the ways you
were hurt.
Therapy calls it attachment injury.
We call it survival mode with coconut oil, prayer, and a side of “God, help me
before I say something I can’t take back.”

Why Mother’s Day Can Feel So Heavy

It’s hard when the world says, “Celebrate!”
Meanwhile, you’re trying to figure out if you even want to send a text—or if you just
need to spend the day minding your peace and your business.
You’re not bitter. You’re healing. And healing is holy work.

Christian Counseling Tips for Healing Mother Wounds

1. Grieve What Was Missing

Jesus wept for Lazarus even knowing resurrection was coming (John 11:35).
You can grieve the mothering you needed but didn’t get—and still hold space for hope.

2. Name the Pain Honestly

Writing an unsent letter can bring powerful healing.
“Dear Mom, I wish you had…” is a doorway into freedom.
Truth doesn’t dishonor; it delivers.

3. Set Boundaries Without Guilt

Jesus often withdrew to lonely places to pray (Luke 5:16).
Sis, it’s okay to put your peace first. Setting limits doesn’t mean you’re disobedient—it
means you’re wise.

4. Gently Honor Your Mother Without Losing Yourself

Honor isn’t about pretending the pain didn’t happen.
Sometimes, honoring looks like praying for her from afar, blessing her silently, or simply
choosing not to replay the hurt in your heart.
Affirmation:
“I can honor my mother through grace and boundaries, without sacrificing my healing.”

5. Let God Reparent You

Psalm 27:10 says, “Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.”
God knows how to mother the wounded places inside of you.
You are never too broken for His love.

🙏 A Prayer for You This Mother’s Day
“Lord, thank You for seeing what others missed. Heal the places where I was wounded.
Teach me to grieve, forgive, honor, and protect my peace. Let my story reflect Your
glory. Amen.”

🌸 On Mother’s Day, Give Yourself Grace
•Journal the story you’ve been carrying
•Celebrate how far you’ve come
•Know that your healing honors God—even if others don’t fully understand. Your story is still being written. And sis, it’s going to be beautiful.

💬 Sis, Let’s Talk

Have you felt unseen, dismissed, or emotionally exhausted in your relationship with
your mother? You’re not alone.
You are seen. You are healing. You are whole.
At Very Present Help Counseling by Ebony Johnson, we provide compassionate, faith-based virtual counseling services tailored for adults grappling with anxiety, depression, grief, loss, PTSD, and trauma. If you’re ready to process more, book a consultation today.

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